For many alcoholics drinking becomes a shameful private act. It is no longer a social activity because whenever they indulge they overindulge. Perhaps their inner social circle has confronted this individual about their drinking and the alcoholic has expressed agreement to get a handle on the issue. Now they’re drinking down a pint of liquor before they come into the house at the end of the day and they’re bee-lining it straight to bathroom to the toothpaste and the mouthwash. They’ve become a closet alcoholic.
Often loved ones expressing to an alcoholic their concern and a desire that they stop doing what they’re doing to themselves will prompt them to start hiding their drinking. Perhaps they attempted to stop but the bar or the liquor store on the way home proved too tempting. Many will begin hiding their bottles around the house, in the bathroom maybe or anywhere they can find a private moment to take a drink.
Usually if you suspect that your loved one is drinking alcoholically in secret then they most likely are. It is difficult to mask the distinct odor of alcohol and hide the effect it is having on them. Their inebriation will become increasingly obvious. Confronting your loved one may put them on the defensive, so be careful. Chances are they will deny the accusations anyway. In such a situation it may be wise to hold a formal intervention that includes the important people in your loved one’s life who want to see them get well. Professional interventionists are easily found, readily available and highly effective. Again, the alcoholic may perceive the intervention as an attack. Continuing to drink in secret after a problem has already been brought to light is a signal that they aren’t completely willing to give in and get help for themselves yet. Unfortunately that is a decision they will have to come to on their own, but expression of positive and loving care can help steer them in that direction.